Lecture Take Home Acronyms
Relating to Gen Y
In this lecture I suggested that Gen Y brains are different because of several factors, particularly as they have grown up heavily relying on computer and screen technologies. To keep in good relationship with members of your family who are Gen Y remember BRAIL
Be there, Build Bridges
Reward Responsibility, be Real
Ask questions, Accept them as they are
Internet is for Information, get connected
Learn from them, Look them in the eye & say “You’re OK, you’re special to me”
Five steps to men’s mental health
I presented the idea that although society is changing it is not be “wrong” or “bad” to be male. Male characteristics are strengths. The five steps to men’s mental health are:
Take care of yourself
Be more relational
Manage strong emotions
Take your place
Adapt by being the man you are
Honey are you Listening?
This lecture was about the science of communication and the importance of listening, particularly in close relationships. To listen well, remember EARS
Establish an Environment Encouraging Easy-talking & listening
Asking questions and say a-ha to show you’re listening
Repeat their answers using their words
Summarise the situation.
Finding harmony in your relationship
This lecture was about handling conflict rather than solving problems. Disharmony in your relationship can be “SPICY”:
Sit with the tension; Solve everything? You can’t.
Problem. The problem is the problem, your relationship isn’t
1You are number one in my life.
Carry conflict, carry baggage. In a relationship, share the load of past hurts.
You and me against the world. Play this more often.
Laughter is the best medicine
To get more laughter in your life, remember your ARMPITS:
Arguments. Use humour more, even when arguing to relieve tension
Repertoire. Build your own repertoire of jokes.
Movies. There as so many funny movies to get you laughing
Play: with kids, animals and toys
Internet is full of jokes and funny videos
Tickle someone close to you just for fun
Seriously? No. No need to take yourself or life too seriously
17 ways to share love and kindness
In this lecture I suggested we try sharing more love and kindness with people who are close to us, people we work and socialize with, and with strangers. Everybody WANTS A FAIR GO.
Words: use them & listen to them
Appreciate & Affirm each other
Nearness & kNowing: share thoughts & feelings; it’s good to be known.
Time & touch: spend more time, use appropriate kind touches.
Stickability & Strength: be there for the other, be strong for them.
Acts of kindness & thoughtfulness: help others out, be kind and thoughtul.
Forgive. Let it go, let them of the hook
Allow the other person just to be themselves
In, hold in a side of you that may be hurtful to the other person
Real, be real. Cry when you need to, say what you need to, don’t fake.
Gifts. Give to charities and others.
Openness: be flexible, let go of your agenda do what others want to do
Relaxing by Making Time Stand Still
In this lecture, I suggested it may be impossible to make time stand still, but there are ways to slow down & relax so our brains have the time and space to file away experiences.
1. Take time out
3. Repetitions & rituals